How to Build a Thriving Marriage with Foreign Women

People don’t seem to realize that marriage is more than being together.

For it to survive and last long term, the people in it need to strive to become better spouses for one another.

Living together as husband and wife should be an opportunity for you to help each other grow and flourish. You become better because your partner deserves it – your relationship deserves it.

That being said, here are simple yet effective ways for you to have a thriving marriage with foreign women.

(P.S. The content of this article also works with regular women. After all, a foreign woman is similar in a lot of ways to other women around the world, that is if we disregard race, age, and color).

Create goals together.

Setting goals helps build a strong marriage. It gives your relationship a sense of purpose and direction. It helps you and your partner know what your expectations are for each other and ways to achieve them. Lastly, it gives you something to look forward to in your marriage.

When formulating marriage goals, here are three things to consider:

1. Financial aspect - Money problems are one of the top causes of divorce. It’s best to ensure you’re on the same page as your spouse concerning finances so you can avoid future conflicts regarding spending and saving.

2. Personal development - Some of the happiest couples you’ll ever meet are those who continue pursuing personal growth, even after marriage. However, remember to keep your partner in mind. If you feel she’s not growing at the same time and rate as you, lend a helping hand and motivate her to grow.

3. Relationship improvement - Talk about goals for your relationship: concerns about your level of intimacy, security, connection, and starting a family (i.e. pregnancy and child-rearing).

Similar to a New Year’s resolution, make it a yearly tradition to write your goals and expectations for your marriage on paper.

Become each other’s best friend.

What does that mean? To put it another way, friendship with your spouse is a bond that transcends romance. It’s when you understand each other without explaining everything or anything at all. Just one look and you know what the other is thinking.

Other ways to know you’re each other’s best friend are as follows:

• You bring out the best in each other.

• There are no awkward moments and no judgment.

• You’re there for each other when one is feeling down.

• You know everything about each other - history, likes, dislikes, and fears.

• You’re never bored together. Even silence becomes warm and comforting.

Regular friends come and go. However, if your wife is your best friend, you’ll know she’ll always be there for you.

Schedule regular date nights.

Never stop romancing. Keep the spark alive by regularly going on dates with her. Date nights are exactly what you need to replenish your emotions and affection towards one another. Science even goes on to say that it’s key to a healthy marriage.

You don’t have to spend an unreasonable amount of money on a date night. Food trucks sell equally good food as food from high-end luxury restaurants. Besides, it’s not about the destination, it’s the person you’re with that makes the experience worthwhile.

So whether you’re having a picnic in a parking lot, date night movies at home, or having a stroll on the public beach, as long as you’re beside each other, nothing else should matter.

Shower each other with positivity.

Be each other’s motivator and hype-man. Encourage one another to see the positives in life. There are going to be a lot of challenges you’ll need to face. You will both feel down at some point, especially after a long and tiring day.

To some, coming home and being greeted by their partner has become an escape from the harsh realities of the outside world. Their marriage is their safe haven. That’s why it’s important to culture positivity and love in your home, as most happily married couples do.

Constantly communicate with each other.

Disagreements are inevitable. You’re bound to have misunderstandings throughout your married life. As such, you need to come up with an effective conflict resolution process.

Here are some tips when dealing with marital conflict:

• Listen, don’t just nod and stay quiet.

• Be honest with your feelings.

• Understand the problem.

• Accept differences and be open to adjustments.

• Learn to compromise.

A common misconception concerning marriage is that a lot of people think they will magically live happily ever after with their wedded pair.

The truth is, real life is different from movies and storybooks.

A lot of continual effort and work is needed for a marriage to last. There will be happy moments and there will be not-so-happy moments. What matters is how the couple handles them.

Problem-solving is easy when you know how to communicate with each other effectively.

Have simple love routines.

Sleep together. Kiss each other good night. Eat breakfast together. Do marriage strengthening exercises.

In other words, make “focused time” for one another.

It’s a fairly simple concept. Time spent with each other helps further strengthen your marriage. No matter how insignificant these small acts may seem, they will greatly improve your bond with your wife.

Wouldn’t you want to wake up next to the woman you love every morning? While you’re admiring the thought of getting to do that for the rest of your life, never hold back from telling her she’s beautiful.

By showing how grateful you are to have her as your wife, she will definitely reciprocate your actions, perhaps even a hundredfold.

Say “I love you” every day.

Saying “I love you” isn’t limited to saying the actual words. There are many ways to tell your spouse that you love her:

• “I support you in everything you do.”

• “How are you?” “Tell me how you feel.”

• “Good morning.” “Good night.” “Have a good day.”

• “I’m sorry I did something to upset you. Forgive me.”

• “You mean so much to me. I’m glad you’re in my life.”

You can also do it through action. Remind her how much you love her by making these loving gestures.

• Surprise her with her favorite flowers.

• Give her time off and make dinner yourself.

• Take her shopping.

Little things count. You don’t have to make a grand romantic gesture to tell her that you love her with all your heart. A simple kiss and a simple “I love you” are enough.

“Happily ever after is not by chance. It’s by choice.” - John and Julie Gottman

Marriage is hard work. You need to put your heart and soul into molding it. Though it takes a lot of time and patience to do so, in the end, it’s all worth it.

What we’re saying is that consistent efforts towards making things work leads to successful marriages with foreign women.